Have you ever noticed that the minute you become engaged, everyone you meet decides to give you their two cents on weddings and marriage? Let the small stuff roll off your back; only bother dealing with the really thoughtless questions. These snappy comebacks will help you deflect rude questions about your wedding, while still allowing you to be every bit the gracious bride.
A lot of folks just can’t resist giving their two cents when someone gets engaged. For some reason, nosy friends and relatives think it is fine to ask “What did that set you back?”. Unless the person asking has a vested financial interest in your wedding (like your dad who is writing the checks), you are under no obligation to give a straightforward answer. It is perfectly fine to brush off nosy questions by saying you don’t remember. Or if you actually got a good deal on something and care to share that information, you could say, “I picked it up for a great price at a Raleigh jewelry store”. Some brides prefer to go the sarcasm route and answer all questions about their spending with a snarky comeback, but that does not look so gracious. Try the old diversion tactic, and just change the subject until they get the hint to stop asking.
If there is one thing that boils a bride’s blood, it is being asked if she has to get married?”. It is the height of rudeness to ask if the couple is only getting married because they are “in a family way”! Rather than getting mad about the underlying message, just respond to the actual query. Try this response: “Of course he has to marry me – he wouldn’t want to let someone as fabulous as me slip away!”. If the questioner has the nerve to clarify the question and flat out ask if you are having a shotgun wedding, a shocked stare and silence are the appropriate response to such rudeness.
It sure seems as though there is not a person alive who does not have some thoughts on weddings, and they are not afraid to say their ideas are better than yours. Brides often get irritated when their family members start asking them why they chose this wedding color or that type of flower. An easy way to put an end to the opinions is to inform people that you chose the same first dance song (or whatever) as your parents, and that it is not open for discussion. Every bride has the right to her own opinions about what makes for a great wedding, and you do too. Stand your ground and feel free to plainly say, “This is how I want to do it”. If someone insists on giving you their opinion on why they think you pink bridesmaid dresses would be better than blue or what have you, just smile and nod. You can also thank them for their input but tell them that your decision is final, as you have already ordered the perfect bridesmaid jewelry from your favorite Raleigh jewelry store to match the color of the bridesmaid dresses.
As shocking as it may be, some people have the nerve to ask a bride-to-be why she is getting married at all. People might start dropping divorce statistics on you when you talk about tying the knot. It is fine to tell the haters that you are getting married because you and your fiance want to spend the rest of your lives together. Some people do not respond to subtle hints, in which case you can clearly inform them that their questions are hurting your feelings!
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